The 7-Day Muse Awakening – A Journey to Reclaim Your Effortless Feminine Power
Day 5: The Art of Communication – Speaking with Influence, Listening with Intention
A Shift in Perspective
Think of the last time someone truly captivated you.
Not because they spoke the loudest. Not because they filled every pause. But because every word they chose felt precise, intentional—undeniable.
They didn’t just talk. They made you listen.
Now, think of the opposite—someone who spoke endlessly, yet said nothing.
The difference? One knew the secret: communication is not about how much you say, but about the space you hold.
The most magnetic women?
They don’t raise their voices.
They raise the weight of their words.
The Truth Beneath It
Communication is not just about words. It’s about energy transfer—the unspoken, the space between sentences, the way someone feels after speaking with you.
Science confirms this:
- Sociologist Alex Pentland (2012) found that high-impact communicators listen more than they speak—because influence is built in silence, not noise.
- Harvard research (Cuddy, Kohut, & Neffinger, 2013) shows that those who ask more questions—not give more answers—are seen as more intelligent and charismatic.
- Neuroscientist Uri Hasson (2018) discovered that when we truly listen, our brain activity synchronizes with the speaker’s—proving that connection is built not through words, but through presence.
Think of the most compelling figures in leadership, diplomacy, and media. Their power isn’t in dominating conversations—it’s in how they shape them.
- Michelle Obama – Holds space in conversations with intentional pauses and deep listening, making those around her feel seen and understood.
- Maya Angelou – Spoke sparingly, yet every word carried weight because it was chosen with precision.
- Brené Brown – Revolutionized communication by proving that vulnerability, expressed with confidence, builds deep influence.
Their influence is not just in their words. It’s in how they create space for others.
Seeing It Differently
Communication is not just words—it’s energy transfer.
Picture two conversations:
📌 One person speaks endlessly. Their words rush, overlap, spill out. By the time they leave, you remember nothing.
📌 Another says little. But every word lands. Every silence holds weight.
Which one would you rather be?
This is why powerful communicators don’t rush to speak.
- Presence before words → How you hold yourself before speaking shapes how others hear you.
- Listening as influence → People trust those who make them feel seen.
- Silence as strength → The most compelling communicators don’t fear pauses. They use them.
That’s because communication is not just about saying things—it’s about how people experience you.
In The Charisma Myth, Olivia Fox Cabane explores how strategic silence, deep listening, and intentional pauses heighten presence and perceived intelligence.
Your communication is not just in what you say. It’s in what you don’t say, how you listen, and how you hold space.
Stepping Into It
Today, try a 3-step experiment in influence:
📌 Step 1: Delay Your Response – Before answering, take a 2-second pause. Notice how this small shift changes the energy of the conversation.
📌 Step 2: Lead with Questions – Instead of “I think…”, try “What do you think about…?” and observe how people open up.
📌 Step 3: Observe the Room – Who speaks the most? Who holds the real influence? They are rarely the same person.
What do you notice?
💡 Because influence is not about talking. It’s about how you shape the space around you.
A Moment of Reflection
Today, engage in a conversation differently.
- Ask more questions than you answer.
- Let your words land before rushing to the next point.
- Use silence as a tool, not a gap to be filled.
At the end of the conversation, reflect:
- Did the conversation feel more meaningful?
- Did you notice a shift in how others responded to you?
- Did you feel more in control of how you expressed yourself?
Because true communicators don’t chase conversations. They guide them.
An Invitation to Experience It
For the next 24 hours, make your words rare.
📌 Speak as if each sentence costs something.
📌 Listen as if you’re uncovering hidden gold.
📌 Notice how silence transforms your presence.
Because the most magnetic women don’t just talk. They make people wait for their words.